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A remaining thought from our columnist Grace Victory

As our great columnist Grace Victory embarks on an thrilling new chapter in her life, and pens her remaining column for us, she displays on the passage of time, in addition to the teachings from endings – and new beginnings

If I’ve learnt one factor up to now few years, it’s that nothing lasts ceaselessly. Whether or not it’s a selected feeling, trauma, a job or a friendship, generally issues run their course, seasons change, and what we as soon as needed or wanted, we now not need.

Feelings like happiness are fleeting, typically relying on outdoors sources, and emotions like unhappiness may be on account of climate, or hormones, or scrolling aimlessly on Twitter (all of us do it LOL).

Our emotions can change so dramatically by means of the day that we are able to’t place an excessive amount of attachment to them. They’ll rework. They finish. They don’t often final too lengthy. And I feel that’s truly a reasonably lovely factor about humanity. Tough relationships can ultimately reveal a method out and ahead, we may be made redundant from a job we completely detest, and childhood trauma may finish once we develop into maturity, put the work in, and heal.

Endings are the place the place beginnings can begin, and whereas refreshing and delightful, they’ll typically really feel messy and uncomfortable – particularly if, like me, you may have a must really feel in management.

Life is unpredictable, and we should ebb and circulate like water to turn into resilient to what’s introduced our method. This contains doorways being shut in our faces, or us having the braveness to slam them shut ourselves. The tip of one thing is usually a mourning interval, but additionally a time to replicate on what’s been, how we really feel, and the way we’d like to maneuver ahead.

Because the yr attracts to an in depth, I at all times really feel pensive and extra conscious of my ideas, particularly now that I’m a mom and have overcome essential sickness. You don’t come again from demise (each within the bodily and non secular sense) and simply choose up the place you left off. Every thing feels totally different. Every thing is totally different. And time to re-evaluate is necessary.


As my maternity depart is in full swing (and by the point you learn this my second-born might be right here), I’m within the area of beginning a brand new chapter. A chapter the place I’m a mom of two, the place I’m rediscovering components of myself that I’ve misplaced, but additionally discovering components of myself I by no means knew have been there, and simply hitting pause so I can assume, focus, and determine on what the long run seems to be like for me. Contracts and collaborations with unbelievable manufacturers are ending, and I’m (for the primary time) taking a protracted break free from work and social media. The one break I’ve had in 12 years was once I was in a coma, which doesn’t bloody rely!!

I’m drained.

Drained to my core, and really a lot in want of taking a while out to be with my household, proceed therapeutic, and discover different issues – new, thrilling issues – that convey me contentment and pleasure. Whereas happiness is so fleeting, I consider peace is usually a fixed, and that’s one thing I’d prefer to work in the direction of. Lengthy gone are the times of being OK and comfy with chaos; I would like stillness and to do this, I would like to chop out a number of the noise, my ever rising record of duties and, after all, the to-do record that I’ll in all probability die with!

With that being stated, I’ve additionally made the choice to finish my Happiful column. For no different purpose than simply feeling like I would like to maneuver on, and provides this vitality to myself and my household. I’ve totally cherished this nook of content material to share my ideas, give recommendation, and hook up with my readers. Over time, it actually has turn into my secure area, and the one place I delve into sure matters.

To the crew, particularly Lucy, thanks for having my again and permitting me to make use of my column so freely. Happiful actually is a breath of recent air.

To you, the reader, for taking the time to learn my phrases, thanks.

Transferring on isn’t simple for me. I ponder, overthink, and generally second guess my choices, however I do know that each one of those endings are catalysts for change and progress, so I’m embracing them with open arms.

“However what if I fail? Oh, however my darling… what when you fly?”

Love Grace x

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